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Divorce is a subject about which there has been much debate over the years. Like so many other subjects, all that needs to be said about it can be found in the scripture. Our Eloah, whose name is Yahuwah, set out the rules in the beginning, and those rules have not changed since. He is the Law Maker, and He is the only one who can alter or modify any of the judgments, laws, commandments, etc. of which He has proclaimed. For awhile, He did not strictly enforce His rule about divorce just as He also let people slide in other areas (See Acts 17:30) but there were reasons for that also, as there is for everything He does.

As usual, when man decided that he was in charge instead of the Creator, he started making up his own rules that did not necessarily agree with what Yahuwah had said and passed them off as the requirements of Yahuwah. Much confusion reigned then and still does today.

In the early days, of what was called the "church," moral laws and codes were bound on the general population by people who were committing acts so immoral that it is a shame to even think about them. These events are a matter of secular and "church" history if you care to read about them. Just look up headings about the popes of Rome for starters. Remember that these were the guys who held moral sway over the majority of what was then considered the "civilized" world. They were committing murder, sodomy, incest, child-rape, and many other things that were crimes then just as they are now, but were done under the banner of the "church" and went unpunished on this earth. This is not to say that the Protestants were not just as guilty of the same kinds of infractions, because they were. No matter. They do not go unpunished by our Sovereign.

Divorce laws were also promulgated by those leaders of the "church" and these laws were not in agreement with the word and will of Yahuwah. Those laws are what cause so much dissension and confusion today. In order to clear the confusion and stop the dissension, one need only go to the scripture for the answers.

Pre-Mosaic Law

This is how Yahuwah wanted it to begin with, and except for the lustful heart of man, which Yahuwah allowed, this is how it would have been.

Post-Mosaic Law

This is the "bill of divorcement" of which Yahushua spoke. It is part of the "school master" to bring us to Yahushua and shows how Yahuwah would deal with Yisra'el, both those of the flesh and of the Spirit in the future.

Yahuwah had placed the requirement for Yisra'el to keep their bloodline pure and they had failed to do so. These men realized their error and were taking steps to correct it. This is a good indication that if you are in the present day body of our Sovereign and hoping to marry, the person you intend to marry should be in the body also (among your own kind). To marry outside the body is to invite disaster for both of you.

This explains a lot about the reasons Yahuwah looks on divorce as He does. He "divorced" Yisra'el for her infidelity, just as He has authorized us to do in the new covenant.

Yahushua's teachings - pre-Perfect Law of Liberty

This is the only reason given where divorce is authorized in the law of Yahuwah. This does not mean that you HAVE to divorce an unfaithful spouse, but that you CAN.

Yahushua is telling us that those who love Him are going back to what Yahuwah had said in the beginning. If you really loved the man or woman when you married you must love them until you die. If they really loved you they will do their best to see that you do. That is the way ONE FLESH acts toward itself and that is what a married couple is. One being in the eyes of Yahuwah.

The marriages between humans that are talked about throughout scripture are always between man and woman. There is no way that a man can be one with another man or a woman can be one with another woman in the sense of the scripture. Both of those situations are unnatural and have always been an abomination in the eyes of our Eloah.

Post-Perfect Law of Liberty

Well, here we are! Right back where we started in B'ereshiyth 2:24! It was the will of Yahuwah then for man and wife to be together from the time of their marriage until their death at the creation and it is still the will of Yahuwah now. Many of us have not obeyed this for many different reasons before we were in the body. The only reason for divorce after you are in the body is infidelity by the other.

Everything that happened to you and all acts you did prior to your entrance into the body of our Sovereign are washed away in the regeneration of water immersion (See Acts 2:38, 22:16, 1 Keph [Peter 3:21) It is as if that part of your life never happened in the eyes of Yahuwah. You are a new person, walking in the likeness of His only begotten Son and without guilt. You have been washed and are clean.

If you have been divorced for any reason prior to your entrance into the kingdom, that marriage and divorce is of no consequence. Sha'uwl (Paul) recommends that you remain in whatever condition you were in upon your entrance, but also says that if you cannot contain, marry (1 Korinthios 7:6-9). If you have been divorced since your entrance into the body due to infidelity on your partner's part, you are not under obligation, but are as an unmarried person. You should stay that way if you can (1 Korinthios 7:32-33).

Abusive Relationships in a Marriage
Most of the divorces today cite some form of spousal abuse as the reason for the divorce. You can see from the foregoing that abuse, physical or emotional, is NOT a scriptural reason for a divorce. You also saw how fornication, or unfaithfulness, is the only allowable reason for divorce. With that said, let me make it abundantly clear that tolerating abuse of any kind by a spouse is not in accordance with scripture either. Read again the passage of Ephesios 5:22-33 about how husbands and wives are supposed to relate to their spouse. Let it sink down into your soul and really think about how you and your spouse can begin to meet that ideal, for that IS the ideal and Yahuwah's will for married couples. Unhappily, because we are human, not many are able and sometimes not even willing to meet those simple requirements. If every husband and every wife followed those guidelines, then divorce lawyers and courts would be out of business permanently. This does NOT mean that any person has to submit to physical or psychological abuse from their spouse.

Although scripture does not address the subject of abuse directly, there are plenty of inferences that say it should not happen in a marriage and even direct evidence that every person should treat every other person in a respectful and dignified manner. I would definitely put spouses in the category of persons, so the respectful and dignified treatment called for in those passages has to apply to them also. No man should EVER treat his wife in a manner that degrades her or harms her in any way. If he truly loves her, as he must if he is truly a follower of the Anointed, her welfare must be primary to him, even over his own. On the other hand, the wife should never treat her husband in a way that disrespects his position in the household. His physical and mental welfare should be her primary concern. But the bottom line is still that physical or psychological abuse is not reason for divorce. But, and this is my opinion, neither is the abused spouse required to live with the abuser. They can move out and live elsewhere separately. They just cannot be divorced and/or look for other partners.

If your spouse is abusing you, take whatever legal steps are necessary to provide for your safety, such as having the abuser arrested, tried, and incarcerated. You do NOT have to tolerate abuse.

Love is the Key:
If a man or woman no longer loves their spouse, but there is not abuse going on, then they have to make the decision whether or not to live together. But neither is lack of love reason for divorce. When they married they promised Yahuwah, not the spouse, that they would live with and be faithful to the person they married. They must honor that promise until and unless the spouse dies or proves to be unfaithful.

Something that I have discovered over the years is that love is a relative term. It is a quality or state that cannot really be defined in the context of what people believe about it. Many people seem to think that they can "find love" in some other person and therefore "receive love" from that person. I don't believe that is really true. You must find love in yourself FIRST and then GIVE that love to other people if you expect to be given love in return. It is whole lot easier to say than it is to do, but in my experience it is right. It takes an adjustment of attitude and it doesn't hurt for the people around you to understand that too. Unhappily most don't and only think "getting love" for themselves. As Yahushua said, "It is more blessed to give than to receive," and that is especially true of love.

Now it is time to come to understand the will of Yahuwah and follow the precepts He has given. If you are going to marry, make it for the rest of your life the first time. Follow what Sha'uwl and Keph said, both husbands and wives, and that will be the case. You will find that you have no better friend on this earth than your spouse. You will want to be with them at every opportunity because you enjoy their company and they enjoy yours. There will be no problem with roving eyes because you know the pain that your infidelity would cause your spouse, and because of your love for them you will not want to cause them any pain.

Remember that fornicators and adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of Yahuwah

C.F. Castleberry